Carlos wrote:OT declared. I didn't even remember this discussion and went back to reread it. I am not offended at all, but it bothers me greatly, I say this honestly, that one says "without ever stepping on others' susceptibilities" and then calls my message arrogant while not stigmatizing the message of the user I replied to, who in turn made fun of another user in theirs. If messages like mine "drive guests away," messages like yours are to say the least unhelpful and make one lose the desire to interact. Here we are talking about music, and I am a professional: therefore, if I read a message from an amateur telling another professional "go further and listen to something," I intervene. This is my way of expressing my esteem for someone else. But it is a habit I've had since I was a child: if someone said something stupid directed at one of my friends, I would respond and they would call me the "little lawyer." I need to stop. Now as then, it is not appreciated, and if I even have to be reprimanded, it's not worth it... the next step is "watch out, I'll make a fool of you!" and frankly...
PS: as for being the subject of comments like mine, I respond calmly by saying that if I were talking about things I don't know and making fun of those who answer me, assuming it is they who do not know what they are talking about, well, I would say I would have little to complain about. But I believe that can hardly happen, since if I don't know something, I ask; I don't talk about it.
PPS: to you too, Simone, all my esteem. We speak openly precisely for that reason, but for the sake of frankness, I felt I had to tell you.
OT declared also regarding mine and I HOPE definitively.
I'll start by saying that it's not that I wake up in the morning and vent to the first person I meet; I am aware of the fact that I am not a very normal person (not in a positive sense), but not to this extent...
Here we are not talking so much about the content of the messages as about the tone. Before talking about the tone, however, I will come to the content.
We are in a forum frequented by users from different backgrounds, and the approach we wanted to take was precisely this: to create a meeting point where opinions and knowledge can be exchanged amicably; everyone contributes what they can, sometimes new things are learned, other times new things are taught to others, but we did not want to create a community where there are those who know to whom everything is permitted and those who do not know who must stay quiet and listen or, at most, ask for the floor in the ways indicated by those who know. Everyone promotes their thoughts according to their own ways, which sometimes may seem obvious or even wrong to us, but which can be respectively integrated or corrected in the right ways. There are professionals, there are music teachers, graduates, conductors, composers—in short, people who make a living from music (in both a literal and broad sense). The other reality, as I was saying, is represented by amateurs, whether they are dilettantes, people who started studying music and did not finish their studies, music lovers who could not study for economic reasons, people of all ages on one hand and the other. Among the latter, there may be someone who loves an author, comes to a forum, and opens a debate by quoting something in the hope that someone will make a second post and gradually an in-depth discussion will be created. After all, in a forum, one starts from a question or a conviction and debates... I must say that thanks to all of you, today I can say I know more than I knew a year ago, and I give you credit for that.
Starting from these assumptions, it is not difficult to prove the thesis, namely that many things that may seem trivial to professionals are not at all so for others.
Let's assume the question was also trivial for anyone; I wonder... Is this the way to behave?
Gagaku certainly behaved badly towards Claudio, but why don't we read what Claudio wrote to Gagaku? (I do not want to open a trial against Claudio, who on the contrary I believe accepted my words with a smile and immediately clarified his position, perhaps recognizing an excessively heated response for the type of question posed by Gagaku).
The professionalism factor does not exempt one from the rules of etiquette; on the contrary, contrary to what you wrote, I believe that a professional should have the ethical obligation to maintain a certain decorum during discussions and not descend into an unnecessary arrogance that is not at all an image of their professionalism.
I also disagree for two reasons regarding this sentence:
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It is a vice I have had since I was a child: if someone said something bullshit directed at one of my friends, I would respond and they would call me the little "lawyer". I must stop. Now as then, it is not appreciated, and if I even have to be reprimanded, it's not worth it... the next step is "watch out, I'll Totò you!" and frankly...
The first reason is that Claudio has clearly demonstrated on several occasions that he knows how to defend himself well; that's why I don't think he needs, as you defined yourself, the little "lawyer", but this is already secondary in my view. You too can intervene however you want, but I always refer back to the concept of the professional's "form" (manner).
The reference here was born only because of the manners and, consequently, the tones used, not so much because of the ideas which I do not share, as I believe that everyone can try to open a debate as they see fit, but which I respect nonetheless.
Lastly, it doesn't seem to me that anyone has "Totò-ed" you; it has never happened, but if I always have to stay quiet without saying what can be done and what cannot be done, then there is no point in being here discussing... Therefore, I hope you did not take my messages as "Totòs"; I would be sorry if that were the case, and I assure you that was not the tone.
The last thing regarding guests is that many users have complained about being afraid to express their own opinions for fear of being criticized. Well, on this point, I am absolutely compelled to intervene!
This is the reality of amateurs, so what's the problem? If the questions seem absurd to you, just don't answer them..."